"It's time for black women to stop being held hostage to the deficiencies of black men," Banks says.
"They should emancipate themselves and not feel as if they have no option but make the best of this bad situation.
Which brings me right to another point I’d like to make about looks equating to superiority or inferiority.
Sure, you can’t judge a book by the cover yet too often black men do so, falling prone to the stereotypes associated with non black ethnicities of women - so it’s not just about non black women meeting a Eurocentric standard of beauty easier than most black women.
Dating in general is hard, but imagine how dating is as not only a black person, but a black woman who does not fit Eurocentric beauty standards (such as light skin, light eyes, loose hair, slim facial features, etc.) Often times I commonly see these types of “conventionally” attractive black women paired up with black men more so than mono-racial looking black women - I wonder why?
Single white women are never told to "date outside their race," "stop being so loyal to white men" or "marry a black man!Black women have been taking one for the team for a long time." For the record, Banks is married to a black woman. After his horrid article, "Why black women are justifiably bitter: The bleak relationship picture for African-American females" on NYDaily News.com, there is nothing Banks can tell me about ahead of the curve with Joy Jones' "Marriage Is for White People" in 2006, hence the inspiration for the title of Banks' book.