Juli Slattery is a TCW regular contributor and blogger.
“With sexuality (and with singleness) could you look at masturbation from a theological perspective?
Little boys and girls quickly discover that their "private parts" feel really good to touch.
As children grow, wise parents gently teach that touching some places of our bodies isn't appropriate to do in public.
While there is nothing inherently wrong with touching yourself to experience pleasure, masturbation becomes a moral issue because it involves sexuality. Does that mean that masturbation is always immoral? Here are a few questions that can help you evaluate the issue given your personal circumstances.
While masturbation itself isn't immoral, the sexual fantasies that usually go with it may be.
How then are we to understand the profound unity possible between the different persons of the Trinity?And they teach their kids not to pick their noses in public either.But why does picking your nose have an embarrassing but non-moral stigma, while masturbation has become laden with tremendous guilt and shame?I would argue the best picture God gave us was marriage — and in particular the sexual union between man and wife.
If that's true, it's hard to escape the conclusion that the primary purpose of sex is profoundly relational: it's meant to tightly unify husband and wife in a profound, material metaphor of the self-giving love shared within the Trinity.
If you are married and fantasizing about another man, you are violating, in your mind and heart, your promise to give yourself sexually only to your husband.