Should you be up front and get it over with or wait until the person develops feelings for you?
It's a big ethical problem."For Jennifer Nicholas, it was more than just an ethical problem.
"I would have been happy to have had just one person to unload everything I was feeling," he says.
"Instead I found more than 500.""Charlotteh" was started two years ago by Pam - who, like John, doesn't want her last name used.
A big part of STD Internet groups is social outings. "When we go on outings, we don't put a sign up in the hallway saying, 'Meeting of the Charlotte herpes club,'" Pam said, "Once we went to dinner and there were 30 of us and the hostess asked, 'What's the special occasion?
And a study in this week's Journal of the American Medical Association finds that one in four women has human papillomavirus, which can cause genital warts and cervical cancer.(Interactive: Test your STD knowledge) Once John got over the initial shock of his diagnosis, one of the first things he did was go online.Even knowing when to tell a prospective boyfriend about herpes is tough.