Well, sometimes you are that girl, but love makes your judgment too cloudy to realize. He's taken me out to dinners, drinks, movies; he always texts me to ask about my day; and he even came with me to my office holiday party as my date. You see, I've been dating this guy for a little over a month and things have been going great!You followed that up with, “I was confused because I thought he really liked me.” Maybe I’m missing something here, but his recent break up with his girlfriend has nothing to do with whether or not he likes you.Just because he’s recently gone through a breakup or mentions that he’s stressed doesn’t mean that you don’t have something good between the two of you. Someone breaks up with their boyfriend or girlfriend, they immediately date someone else and then somehow it falls apart or becomes a bad situation.The main reason is that while he’s distracting himself with a new relationship, the unresolved stuff is eating away at him.He’s not going to bring that stuff up with you, but he might feel that if he talks with his ex it might lead to some inner-resolution. 3) You risk turning into his scapegoat, quasi-therapist or shoulder-to-cry-on while he works out his issues.I like that you're having fun with him, and he seems like a considerate, caring guy to date.And I like that he was clear about having feelings for you.
You would have to be patient and really disciplined to give him that space, but it’s much much better than going through a relationship where you’re competing with the ghost of an ex.
I thought about your situation and there are a few things I wanted to touch on in my response.
First, you mentioned that he was very stressed after having broken up his relationship of 10 months a couple of weeks ago.
Chances are, you probably do have some real chemistry together.
Still, the fact remains that if you get involved with someone who hasn’t worked out their issues, there’s a very good possibility that it will lead to a long, drawn-out, confusing roller-coaster of relationship drama that will not end pretty.
“Oh, she’s just a rebound,” “She just broke up, she’s looking for a rebound,” etc. When a relationship ends, there are all sorts of loose ends and areas of life that end up changing (depending on how closely connected these two people were.) The rebound happens when the guy or girl doesn’t address the loose ends and just seeks out another relationship to “shortcut” getting their life back into the order it was in before.